Tough Love
Tough love and brutal truth from strangers are far more valuable than Band-Aids and half-truths from invested friends, who don’t want to see you suffer any more than you have - Shannon L. Alder
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Tough Love is a Joke - Let’s Start Enabling Drug Addicts Everywhere
The tough love culture manifests itself through criminal sanctions against drug use, and also plays out in kitchens and living rooms. Yet no matter how tough the law has been, and no matter how tough people get (partly from copying what they see on TV), the approach has not served us well. Here, I offer a remedy for tough love: enabling.
You’ve probably heard that alcoholics and drug addicts should not be “enabled”. By now, most people have heard it so often that it isn’t questioned. The issue is simply addressed like so: whether a certain form of assistance qualifies as enabling, and hence as misguided and harmful. Never is it suggested that enabling could be the right move.
Yet…
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How Tough Love Can Drive Performance
Of course, one game is not enough to provide evidence for he argument that Mourinho is a better man manager than is widely acknowledged. But there are signs that his tough love can work.
On “tough love” and your fat friend’s health
Let us soften. Love is tough enough without tough love.
She Went to Jail for a Drug Relapse. Tough Love or Too Harsh?
Should an addict’s relapse be punished with a criminal sanction? Ms. Eldred has put that question before the Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court, in a case that may have widespread ripples, as hundreds of thousands of addicted people tumble into the criminal justice system. Remaining drug-free is an almost universal requirement of probation. Violating it can bring sanctions ranging from a warning to, frequently, jail.
Why Tough Love Can Be the Best Thing for Your Relationship
No one likes critical feedback. We often avoid criticism by discouraging those who give it, or dismissing it as invalid. It’s hard to hear that someone feels mistrust, disappointment, or anger toward us. But avoiding “tough love” denies us the opportunity to enhance respect and trust in our relationships and our lives.
Tough Love – Harmful or Helpful?
Tough love – does it hurt or help a person with an addiction to alcohol or other drugs, aka substance use disorder (SUD), get the help they need? I regularly get some form of this question – generally because there’s so much confusion about what it means. Unfortunately, there is no single definition of tough love applicable to addiction.
Judicial Tough Love Helps Addicted Mothers Stay Clean
“The thought used to be that you can’t force them into recovery,” he says. “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t force him to drink.” But with family drug court, the threat of a few days in jail can be strong motivation to stay clean.
Love your children—but don’t believe them, defend them or feel sorry for them
One of the greatest challenges to busy parents is developing a loving, tough, sacrificial, intelligent approach to raising kids. Being a good parent has more to do with our own internal victories than eliciting specific behavior from our children. The parent that wrestles with the issues surrounding the three categories here will undergo significant transformation in parenting, and their children will benefit greatly. If these principles throw you a little, that’s probably a good start!
The Tough-Love Approach to Career Guidance
“You don’t want someone that will tell you exactly what to do. That’s not the point of a mentor.”
Time for an end to parental tough love
Based on the results of a study published last month which linked “harsh physical punishment” with mental disorders and substance abuse later in life, we wrote an article The Conversation arguing It’s never okay to hit your kids.
Tough Love: Should You Hold the Line, No Matter What?
Tough love is tough, but it is still love. Blessed are the peacemakers, and when communicated firmly and in a technically neutral voice (not screaming, but incorporating reflective listening using the “victim’s” own words) it is still love.
When Wilderness Boot Camps Take Tough Love Too Far
Troubled teens are occasionally sent to corrective outdoor programs, where they hike for days or perform manual labor. But some parents are saying the physical exertion verges on abuse.
When Wilderness Boot Camps Take Tough Love Too Far
Troubled teens are occasionally sent to corrective outdoor programs, where they hike for days or perform manual labor. But some parents are saying the physical exertion verges on abuse.
“Aw—Mommy Will Make It Better”
Are parents turning their kids into whiny weaklings by overconsoling them?
Tough Love is a Joke - Let’s Start Enabling Drug Addicts Everywhere
The tough love culture manifests itself through criminal sanctions against drug use, and also plays out in kitchens and living rooms. Yet no matter how tough the law has been, and no matter how tough people get (partly from copying what they see on TV), the approach has not served us well. Here, I offer a remedy for tough love: enabling.
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